Depression – according to research, more than half of the inhabitants of large cities are exposed to this state with varying degrees of severity. Information noise, the frantic pace of life and work, the desire to get “everything and at once” in each field of activity leads us to fatigue, lethargy, apathy or, on the contrary, hypersensitivity and irritability.
You are probably closer to depression than you think. “People expect depression to manifest in something obvious. For example, if a loved one starts crying regularly or is angry without reason, ” said family psychotherapist Rebecca Parrish, Prevention.com. In this material – more subtle symptoms of depression, which can easily go unnoticed.
Depressed people tend to look for loneliness, because they want to understand themselves and their feelings, and to do this in society is quite difficult. “If your friend has always been sociable, but suddenly became withdrawn and indecisive, this may well be a sign of depression,” comments psychotherapist Irina Firstein at Prevention. Other signs: the constant desire to sleep and watch TV instead of outdoor activities, which has always been a good tradition.
Depression is a rather debilitating thing. That is why people who constantly analyze themselves and their actions, trying to understand what is happening with their lives, always feel tired. “Depression takes a huge amount of energy, so it does not remain to solve important everyday tasks,” Firstein continues. “I always tell my patients that experiencing depression is no less difficult than pushing a stone up the hill.”
Fatigue can also cause sleep disturbances (or changes in its structure and depth). Studies show that people with insomnia are 10 times more likely to develop deep depression.
Lack of motivation
Always a punctual colleague suddenly began to be late for meetings and do it with enviable regularity? Perhaps this is not just a change of habits. “Many depressed people lose motivation. This concerns not only work, but the desire to put up in the morning and generally do something, ”warns family therapist Kat Van Kirk in an interview with Prevention.
When always calm and positive-minded person suddenly begins to behave the opposite way (nervous, angry and arguing with everyone who does not agree with his point of view), this can also be a sign of depression. Why it happens? Depression is stress, which overloads the emotional background, so that it can shift, effort, or, rarely, weaken the expression of emotions. In the latter case, depression obviously takes too much energy, as a result of which the person stops responding to any events, taking them for granted.
Change in appearance
If your loved one suddenly loses or gains weight without rational reasons, you should think about it. In both cases, we can talk about eating disorders, but anorexia, bulimia and ortorexia are invariably accompanied by depressive moods. Weight fluctuations are a surprisingly common symptom of people who are depressed. This also should be attributed to inattention to appearance: especially in cases where usually a person always watched himself and tried to make a pleasant impression.
“Lack of interest in sex can be a sign of depression,” says Kat Van Kirk. This symptom is difficult to identify, as the partner may refuse you sexual intercourse for other reasons. However, in the case of sexual dysfunction, it is quite obvious that the problem should be sought in the mood.
The fact is that the brain is directly connected to our reproductive system. Thus, attraction to a partner originates in the brain, and only then this signal is transmitted through the neurotransmitters to the genitals by stimulating the flow of blood to them. When a person is depressed, neurotransmitters lose their ability to effectively transmit “information.” In addition to this, depression can cause partners to distance themselves from each other, which will make intimacy even more difficult.